Comments on: Why is there all this rush to get physical in the dating game?

By: mano

mano — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 08:22:14 +0000

No, I don’t think it’s weird to find stimulation in learning. There are various things that people find more interesting and stimulating than copulation.

The dating game to me is a prelude to mating which the body, by design, is made to continue our species. I do agree that girls and boys are exhibiting this urge much earlier then–lets say, twenty years ago. Why? beats the crap out of me.

By: All hat

All hat — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 15:48:19 +0000

It’s different for guys than gals. Young men are SOOO horny all the time you can’t imagine it. I’ts like a freaking obsession. They dont’ ask for it, but that’s the way it is. So to them it’s an emergency to get laid, all the time. Doesn’t mean you have to accommodate them, but that’s where most young men are coming from. No pun intended.

By: Uncle Remus 54

Uncle Remus 54 — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:51:55 +0000

I tend to agree with you after thinking about why I choose the path I did for my second wife.

Well I met my second wife through the internet where sex was not an issue, but our daily life and routine was. So no you are not weird at all. I think that is why dating online services is such a big business now. I did it because I am not into physical contact on the first date but I want to know more about who the person is. Character and quality are just as important. And physical beauty is relative to the beholder.

By: Barry W

Barry W — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:29:16 +0000

Without intellectual stimulation relationships are really doomed to failure. But, we shouldn’t underestimate the desire for human contact. When a couple is drawn to each other, the desire to touch, embrace, caress, and to speak words of endearment is all compelling. I can talk politics or religion with anyone who will listen but the language of love is reserved for the beloved. And who is not seeking someone to share and express your emotions with. How can you downplay the physical connection between lovers? Haven’t you ever noticed how when you are really moved by the other person emotionally (or should I say connected), that suddenly even if you had nothing to say that you will find your voice and the words will come pouring out of you like fuel to the flames of a fire? And who among us has not been consumed by that mysterious fire we call desire? And hasn’t the warmth of that fire been most satisfying, even for a moment? And during that moment haven’t even we mortals tasted the nectar of the gods? that indescribably sweet nectar. Sex is such a mechanical word. When I speak of getting physical, I’m speaking of more than just the stimulation of genitalia and the penetrating and being penetrated. I hope that I have not gone too far but sometimes I feel as though my heart is in flames and that I may suddenly burn to ashes like the mythical phoenix of old.

By: Bushrod Isbister

Bushrod Isbister — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:12:13 +0000

You have to remember that social norms in this society are set by the lowest common denominator. Sex is the overriding drive in the under developed brains of these people. Its pleasurable and can be used to gain social status among their benighted peers. They fear those who use their minds, because this is tera incognita for them. And their idea of intellectual stimulation is the Dr Phil show. You’re not weird, you are just in the minority in this society.

By: faithful

faithful — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 22:02:00 +0000

No it’s not weird. To be honest, it’s quite refreshing since so many people are so “genital focused” in our society.

Basically to provide an answer to your question, when many people go out on dates (especially young people like teens and the early twenties set) they are driven by lust. I don’t mean to sound like a sunday school teacher but ayways to them it’s all about the next conquest. I think that’s particularly true of women today as well. So many people depending on where they are in their lives just want a quick fix a fast orgasm and then move on to the next. I’m not saying that young people aren’t capable of wanting to committed relationship where both parties are respected, it’s just that so many people don’t want the hassle they just want the benefit.

One thing I suggest is to pursue people that you feel are like- minded to you. That way you may not be put in a situation to do something you may not feel comfortable doing.

By: KIEKO

KIEKO — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:30:31 +0000

I guess some people are just attracted to other people sexually. It’s probably because of the media or people are just plain horny and when they find someone they like enough to sleep with their probably going to try and get close to you and then they’ll make their bog move!!!!!!!!!

By: Frosty

Frosty — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:20:02 +0000

Sadly, your version of stimulation is becoming an anomoly. 100+ years ago you would not have felt so alone but the emphasis today seems to be all about the physical. I agree with you, yet I have no answer. Though sex is wonderful, it’s not interchangeable for intellectual stimulation. You’re not weird, but I’ve been asking myself the same question. Is it popular culture (media) shaping individual minds or vice versa? Hard to tell and an argument that will continue to go on for years to come.