Sometimes Love Really Does Hurt
New relationships come equipped with a devotion that is sometimes a bit out of control. You want things to be right between you at all times. She is your top priority, your all, your everything. There is nothing you would not do to please her. And you go about your days doing just that, and then one day it hits you, some regrets have taken root in your mind, and things have gotten away from you.
The way you were always used to living has been replaced with an eagerness to please your wife. After all, marriage is supposed to be a sacrifice, right? If you really love someone, you will not mind making the necessary sacrifices to please her, right? But as you mold yourself into this new man, some of the things you loved about the old man, slowly make their exit from your life.
The plan is for her to go ahead of you to the new home you bought only a few states away. She will prepare things there, while you finish things up here. Money is tight, so the idea is for you to do a few last odd jobs so you will have enough to make the move. She took everything to be kept with her, and left the things to be thrown out in boxes on the porch.
She waves goodbye after a kiss and drives off down the road. While you load the truck, the top on a box flips open and you notice your best golf instruction book is in there. You are amazed that it ended up in the throw out box. This is the book where you learned to play golf in the first years you took up the sport. No way this could be headed for a trash dump. So you grab it out of the box, and put it in the glove box of the truck.
You know that every penny is needed. She counted everything and nothing can be left out in order to accomplish what you need to do to make this move. You begin to rationalize, how you just have to sacrifice when you get married, and she is well worth it. After all, these things were a part of your past, and you are now working on your future. She had no way of knowing how important that book was. Then suddenly, you spot something barely showing through a plastic bag. You look closer, and it is the torn leather watch your Father gave you for pitching such a good game when your little league team won the pennant.
You are a little sick at your stomach, as you try to carry on with the packing. It seems almost like a mild form of shock. You almost lost, in only minutes, two extremely important parts of your life. As you grab an old baseball glove from the last box, a rhodium plated ring falls out. You instantly recognize it as the ring they presented you with at a ceremony held in your honor from the boys club. It was to honor you for ten years of loyal service in working with the kids in your community.
This was the ring that was given to you for your outstanding work with the local Boys’ Club. For ten years of faithful service that helped many young boys find help to stay off the streets and find purpose and meaning to their lives. It was a real accomplishment in your life. You realize that, just because you are starting a new life with her, it is a merger of two former lives, not the death of who you are. And you also realize, that if you are not careful, love can really hurt sometimes.
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